Two Guys Falling For...Me?

It's day 358 of documenting 2025.
7 days to 2026!

It's Christmas Eve! 😄
And I'm at my uncle's place...with my brother, my cousin and her friend.
Ma homies!
So far, it's been good vibes, laughter, arguments and more laughter all the way.

Since yesterday, we've been eating from the same plate and sharing memories.
So far, there's been no division...and I hope it continues that way.

It's still morning now, but I want to type out this post so I don't worry about how to type it when my phone battery goes down later on.
I actually want to say something on what happened yesterday.
About two guys falling for the same girl...and guess who the girl is?

Okay, so I was able to have a video call with my coursemate and friend, E....who I talked about in former posts.
The one I said I was developing feelings for. We later talked about it and he's a close friend now. Feelings gone.

He then told me about a friend of ours, called J.
J told me a few days ago that he really likes me and wants me to be his girlfriend.
Maybe he developed these feelings because of the time we spent in E's house, because J happened to come with us for the programme.

I told J that I wasn't all about a relationship right now that I'm in school and that we could still be friends.
I'm feel like he wasn't as understanding as he mentioned.
Well, it was a chat, so I couldn't tell.

E said that J called him and told him about what happened.
That I told him no.
E then said that J was crying!
I was like, "what? 😲"
Why would a guy cry about something like that?
I wasn't totally surprised tho...

Here's the thing...
J is the kind of guy that most people would call a lady-man.
Why? Because of his mannerisms.
He behaves like a lady and it's quite obvious to everyone.
E and some of our coursemates always mock him because of this and call him "gay".

I'm the only one among his friends that would shun them about it.
I actually like how cheerful he is...not minding the fact that he acts like a lady.
I'm always like, "J, don't mind them"
and "you guys should stop this".
I sometimes laugh because E and his friends can be so hilarious with their comments 😅

It doesn't change the fact that J is a good guy.
Although his temper can be hot...he has a good heart.
But you can't really know a person, right? Just saying.
I wouldn't say I trust him as much as I now trust E...which is to a certain extent.
I trust God more than anyone else.

Before I go any further, let's see today's highlights.
Then my take...and one more incident with another guy falling for a particular girl.
Guess who the girl is? 😏

365 Days With Self-discipline
📌 On Acting Differently From Others

"Unless you think that the majority of people are living successful lives, chances are that at some point you will have to act differently from those around you.

Success can take many forms and it is often about standing out from the crowd or being above average, spotting when the crowd moves one way and making sure that you move the other."
Quote by Nigel Cumberland

It takes guts to stand out from the crowd and move the other way when, deep down, you know that it’s you who’s right and not everyone else.

Even if you’re a self-disciplined, mentally tough person, it’s still hard to go against the crowd.

For this reason, one of the most powerful exercises you can do to improve your chances of acting differently from others when you know that you’re right is to practice holding your ground.

If somebody tells you to do something in a given way but you don’t understand why, ask them to explain their request.
If the explanation isn’t sufficient, suggest a different way of doing things that you think might be better.

Note that this isn’t about confrontation for the sake of confrontation.
It’s an exercise in questioning doing things in a given way just because “that’s how they’ve been done until now,” but nobody knows why.

This way, you get to learn (on a small scale) how it feels when you’re opposing the current, and this experience will help you hold your ground when the stakes are higher.

Well, this is going to be something hard to do when we resume.
What I mean by that is...there are some things I'm going to stop doing moving forward.

People I'll stop moving with, places I'll stop going, activities I'll stop engaging in.
So far, I see they're not helping me in my goal...first to maintain a level of balance and second to manage time effectively.
Will it be hard? Yes.
But I'll do it anyway, so I can lay a good foundation for a good graduating result.

Alright, back to my story.
There's another person who told me recently that he loves me and would like us to be in a relationship.
This time, it's my brother's friend.
Let's call him Clint.

So, I met Clint through my brother...as they move around campus together.
I really don't like Clint the way he likes me, and I see him as a brother too.
But the heart wants what the heart wants, right?
This time, it's his heart.

I explained to Clint that I wasn't up for a relationship at this point...and any lucky girl would be happy with him.
He then picked on that "lucky" in my sentence and said that I didn't want to be lucky.
I was like, "maybe....or maybe I've already been taken".
That was my reply.

Clint went on to say that my brother had a hand in what I said.
My brother doesn't even know anything about his confession.
How would I even start telling him?
It could probably cause a rift in their friendship...so I can't think of it.

I told Clint that he should focus on being the best at what he came to school for...which is to study.
I then asked, "can you do that for me?"
He said, "yes".
I'm going to take him at his word.
I even told him that I owed him a hug when we resume 🫂

I'm not too much of a hugger...but he deserves a hug for understanding my point.
I think I'll be giving out lots of hugs when we resume.
Till then 😌

Okay, my concluding thoughts on this....
I'm nobody special.
I just try to be at peace with everyone.
I smile and laugh a lot...and I don't think I know how I will react when I get really angry.
That could mean that I won't easily be upset.

E told me that my kind of personality is the type that guys typically like and find easy to deceive.
Does that mean I can easily be deceived? Not really.

E also said that I'm the kind of lady that every guy would want to have a relationship with.
As flattering as that sounded, I haven't seen the kind of guy that all ladies would want to have a relationship with.
And there's a particular quality I look for in guys I relate with.

So far, I've met only one person that has that quality and that's the kind of guy I would want to have a relationship with.
Guess who the guy is? PK.
I don't mention him much anymore in my posts, but he's still very special to me.

As long as I don't see that quality in any other guy, I wouldn't want to have anything to do with him.
That's why relationship matters would definitely be after school.
That's the verdict 😌
I pray that God keeps me true to this decision.

Well, that would be a for today's documentation.
Thanks for reading 🎀
You can always catch up on former posts by visiting the main website, Documenting 2025.

See you in the next post 💜