A Teacher And A Crush

It's day 266 of documenting 2025.

99 days to 2026...

What a day I had!

So yeah...I didn't even have a chance to type today's post. Until now, by 7:59PM.

Well, I signed up for it...so might as well adjust my schedule.

Speaking of schedule, it's like... ultimately defined now.

Early morning, wake up and write.

Morning, walk about and teach.

Break time, socials and scripture verses.

Afternoon till evening, teach some more

Night, complete the activities I couldn't do in the morning and afternoon.

Then I'm off to bed.

But I'm getting used to it....because I know it won't be long before I have to travel.

Guess that shows how adaptable I can be, right? 

Anyways...

Let me share a story, something that happened behind the scenes.

I didn't actually mention it in this blog, so I can start from there.

In one sentence, a middle-aged teacher had a crush on me. And now the details...

It was during the time I was preparing for JAMB...the exam that qualifies me for applications to any higher institution.

Then, I used to make my hair and I wasn't as close to God as I am now.

In the tutorial centre where I attended, the man teaching us English started having an interest in me. First, it was during classes and I'm sure it was the normal teacher-student relationship.

Then, one day, he called me aside and asked if he could get my number...that he wanted to "discuss more with me."

I wondered what.

I wrote it down and gave him the paper.

Another day, I was going towards my house and met him going somewhere.

It turns out that he's teaching in another school, close to my house.

He even visited my house once and asked if anyone was going to make him feel uncomfortable.

I didn't entertain him at my house because it felt super weird.

I was on my way out then....so we just walked together.

We conversed at intervals...and I didn't think it was anything strange or serious.

Until he started messaging me.

It was normal text messages, and later WhatsApp...and then I had started teaching, so I wouldn't quickly respond because I was in a class.

One day, he complemented my "charisma" as well as my hairstyle.

Then I knew something was up.

He started messaging me often and then when we met at the tutorial centre, he told me I could visit the school where he teaches...to "just discuss about some things."

I was a busy as a bee then...so I didn't even do that.

Funny thing is that he goes to church...and I think he's a pastor or something like that.

I recall him inviting me to his church and me declining the offer because "my dad wouldn't approve".

I vividly remember the last chat exchange we had.

He was told me he wanted to tell me something important and asked if I could come to visit him at his house.

I told him I couldn't because I wouldn't have the chance.

I told him that if he couldn't tell me the "important thing" over call or text, then he shouldn't tell me.

At that point, I already knew where he was headed.

I blocked him immediately and then told PK about it.

PK said that the teacher was no good....that for a middle-aged person like him to have an interest in me was bad.

He also said that the teacher had bad intentions for me...and I truly felt like PK was looking out for me, with all he said in his reply.

(Much of which I can't remember now...)

I understood PK's concern clearly and I kept my distance from the teacher.

Few days later, he messaged me via normal text.

He said something along the lines of,

"In these past few weeks, something happened to me since I met you. But now, I have gotten over it. I loved you. 

Could you please forgive me?"

(Just paraphrasing here...)

He must have noticed that I already knew where he was headed in our communication.

I don't remember if I responded...

But weeks later, after JAMB was over and the results were out, we met again.

It was at the award party organized by the tutorial centre to honor the best performing students.

I was among them...coming in third with a score of 287.

I was also the only girl and science student among them.

In addition to that, I won a cash prize 😁

Anyways, I digressed.

The teacher and I met at the occasion and then I tried my best not to glare at him as he spoke to the rest of the attendees.

At the end of the occasion, he called me and asked why I haven't communicated with him.

The usual lie...sorry, response was, "I have been busy, sir".

He then told me to try and communicate once in a while.

With my head nodding like a lizard, I told him I would try.

I have never messaged him till today. He's actually blocked from even calling me...not to mention texting my normal line.

As I had written my exam, there was no reason to come to the tutorial centre again. That's how the relationship ended.

Well, now you know a story behind the scenes. I didn't actually mention it iny blog because at that time, it felt embarrassing.

And when I finally mustered courage to tell my dad, he echoed the same thing PK had said....what I should be careful of the people I associate with or befriend...especially because I would be on my own real soon.

I thank God for my friends and family 😌

What a story!

Now that you've known that, I can probably share today's highlights now....and share a few thoughts.

Might as well share the whole note for today...

365 Days With Self-discipline 

📌 On Temptations and Your Decision What to Do About Them

"An eye, when open, has no option but to see. The decision whether to look at a particular man’s wife, however, and how, belongs to the will. 

And the determination whether to trust what someone says, and then, if we trust them, whether we should be angered by it — that also belongs to the will.

Quote by Epictetus

When shopping, you’ll undoubtedly find yourself surrounded by shelves filled with unhealthy food. 

However, the decision whether it lands in your shopping cart depends on you.

When taking a pause from learning for a difficult exam, you might receive a message from a friend asking you to hang out. 

The decision as to whether you

hang out or finish your coffee and resume studying is yours to make.

When browsing online, looking for information to help you grow your business, you might stumble upon a cat meme or a funny video. 

It’s within your control as to whether you waste your time on low-quality entertainment or continue your search for information.

It’s tempting to shift the responsibility to the external factors, but does it benefit you in any way to claim that you cheated on your diet because you happened to go through the aisle with the potato chips? 

Is it a legitimate excuse to say that you didn’t go for a jog because there was a comfortable sofa in your living room and it demanded your attention?

Do whatever you can to avoid situations that might tempt you to do something that will jeopardize your long-term goals, but if you happen to come upon them, remember that it’s still your decision — and a test of your self-discipline — as to whether they will affect you negatively.

It's all about choice 😌

What you choose to do in the moment of decision.

It's not reasonable to blame external circumstances, which you will always encounter.

The best choice you will ever make is to choose life, as God told us to do in Deuteronomy 30:19.

And then doing what is said in His Word.

The key is to continue...even when things get hard.

One of my favorite verses in the Bible is what I like to call, "God's version of "don't give up".

It's Galatians 6:9.

"And let us not be weary in well doing, for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not." 

I would like to end today's post on that note 😌

Keep going.

Don't ever stop.

And you will surely win.

Thanks for reading 🎀 

If you liked this post, then you would like some of the others on the main website, Documenting 2025.

See you in the next post 💜