FEAR = Face Everything And Rise!

It's day 70 of documenting 2025.

I'm just gonna start with a message sent to me last night.
By a dear friend I call Kev.

"I think I know my greatest challenge towards anything I wanna do: "Fear"....Fear that I'm not up to the task, Fear that I'm not good enough, Fear that... 🧎🏽‍♂️

It just hit me and I realized now why not just Face Everything And Rise—literally

Fear, can make you undersell yourself, Fear can shell you when you ought to shine
But I'm happy that I realise that now, and decided to change that narrative."

I'm happy he realized that.
Most people never do and they live their lives wondering why others succeed and they don't.
It takes courage 😌
Face
Everything
And
Rise

Once, I was afraid of putting myself out there....not anymore.
What most people don't know is that the more you do what scares you most, the less scary it becomes.

Yesterday I talked to a new face at the tutorial.
It was cakewalk.
That's because I had done it a couple of times with different people there.
Dora included ☺️
Striking a conversation with someone new is no longer scary for me.

It takes courage to be ambitious.
Why can't you be ambitious?
Why can't you dream big?
What stops you?
Fear 😨
But if you can face it just once, it becomes defeated.
You can still feel afraid, but you will keep going anyways.
Fear no longer controls you.

So, my friend, do one right thing that scares the hell out of you.
Do it today.
Only one thing.
Let your heart race, feel it pounding in your chest and do it.
Just do it.
Beat the fear just once and see what happens.

Thanks Kev ☺️
You inspired me to start this post in a motivational mood.
I wish you the best of luck 🤞🏼

Let's dive into the highlights for today.
The usual is 365 Days With Self-discipline by Martin Meadows.
The 5 Second Rule by Mel Robbins is Tuesday's read.

365 Days With Self-discipline
📌 Day 70: On Parkinson's Law

"It is a commonplace observation that work expands so as to fill the time available for its completion."
Quote by Cyril Northcote Parkinson

I'm guessing this is the famous Parkinson's law most people refer to when talking about time management ⌚
For him, it was just an observation.
It's fascinating that something as simple as an observation become a guiding principle.

"Limiting the time available to complete a given task is one of the most powerful secrets of productive people and a powerful way to overcome procrastination."

That's why they talk speed.
Do it fast. Fail fast. Correct fast.
Succeed fast? Not always.
Overnight success usually happens after years of doing, failing and correcting.

"If you lack the self-control needed to work in a focused way, give yourself a challenging deadline to enforce concentration.
Suddenly, what normally takes
two hours to accomplish (or rather, two hours of intermittent work and distractions) will only take thirty minutes (or less) of 100% focused work at your highest potential."

I agree with this.
And I must confess, I'm a culprit of intermittent work 😅
Not always tho....
When I decide to focus, I lock in.

"If you’ve been putting off a certain unpleasant task, get to it now, but instead of giving yourself plenty of time to finish it, do it in 25% of your usual timeframe."

Yeah, I can think of one 😏
(Laundry!)
I'll try this today.
Let's see if I can do it in 30 minutes instead of 2 hours

"The new, greatly shortened period of work should reduce your resistance to getting started, and the challenge of doing it more quickly should bring out some
excitement that will additionally fuel your resolve to get it done."

I've felt that excitement a couple of times.
In fact, I feel it now....
I literally have less than 5 minutes to finish this post!
That feeling of, "get it done before the timer rings" usually gets me going.

There's something I have to do now, which means I have to pause typing.
(I'm on breakfast duty 🍽️)
So, it will take me more than 5 minutes to finish this post.
I just decided to try the timer 🤷🏼

The 5 Second Rule
📌 You Make Decisions Based On How You Feel

"Every time we have a decision to make, we subconsciously tally all the pros and cons of our choices and then make a gut call, based on how we feel."

Hmm 🤔
There are days when I don't feel like doing something and I end up not doing it.

"And that explains why change is hard. Logically, we know what we should do, but our feelings about doing it make our decision for us."

We know we have to exercise to keep fit.
We know we have to set goals to succeed.
We know we have to go for that lecture to get a degree.
Most of us never feel like doing it.

"How you feel in the moment is almost never aligned with your goals and your dreams.
If you only act when you feel like it, you will never get what you want."

You act when you feel like doing a task, say cleaning your room.
Two times out of ten.
There's a high possibility that your room will stay messy most of the time.
Why? Because you only tidy up when you feel like it.
I'm guessing you understand what I mean.

"When you stop to consider how you feel, you stop moving toward your goal.
Once you hesitate, you’ll start thinking about what you need to do, you’ll weigh the pros and cons, you’ll consider how you feel about what you need to do, and you’ll talk yourself out of doing it."

How you feel can be dangerous at this point, if you don't learn how to act regardless of it.

"You are more than capable of doing the work to change anything for the better, despite how you feel."

I believe this is true
For me and for you
(Now, I'm rhyming too 😄)

"You can’t control how you feel.
But you can always choose how you act."

Facts 💯
Choose to move,
Get up and go.
It's the key most people miss.

"Ever wonder how pro athletes achieve so much?
Part of it is talent and practice, but another key element is a skill that you and I need in our lives—the ability to separate from our emotions and push our bodies and mouths to move."

The development of that skill is something I'm still going through.
I admit, my feelings sometimes stop me from doing what I need to.
People who engage with me think I have it all together.
I don't 😐
I still struggle.
But I manage to get things done in time.

And I always encourage my friends whenever I can.
To never stop trying.
To never think less of themselves.
To keep being themselves.
That's what friends are for, right?
They also help me, make me laugh and keep my spirits up.
For that, I'm grateful 🥲

I've come to the end of this post.
I'm sure you enjoyed it and learned a few things.
This is not your usual blog post.
It's more like me talking about stuff to a friend.
I'll keep it that way.

You can check out my former posts on main site, Documenting 2025.
PS. It's one of a kind

Thanks for reading, my friend 😊
Thanks for spending a bit of your time to hear what I have to say.
Don't be shy to share your thoughts in the comments, okay?
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In case you don't know, I'm Duon Ada.
I'm a girlie in her twenties exploring life and writing her story.
I'm documenting 2025.
And I'll definitely see you tomorrow.
Ciao 💕