A Chat With Meta AI (Life Coach)

It's day 87 of documenting 2025.

It's a Friyay! 💃🏼💃🏼
But as excited as I sound, I had no idea of what I was going to type today.
I was thinking hard yesterday....so many ideas clashing into each other....

That's not true tho...
For the first time in a while, my mind was quite blank.
I was thinking about the fact that I may be at a certain stage in my life.
Then I decided to chat with Meta AI.

After the chat, I thought...
"Why not share the chat in todays post? Besides it's another day added to the streak!"

So, that's what I'm going to do today.

But before that....Highlights!

It's today's note from 365 Days With Self-discipline by Martin Meadows.
And the parts I highlighted are what I share here as quotes.
I also share my thoughts on them occasionally.
Let's dive in!

365 Days With Self-discipline
📌 Day 87: On Attributing Failure To External Factors

"When interpreting their own failures, individuals tend to make external attributions, pointing to factors that are outside of their direct control (such as luck).
As a result, their motivation to exert effort on the same task in the future is reduced."
Quote by Bradley R. Staats

"Failure can offer valuable feedback that will help you achieve your goal.
Unfortunately, many people lose the learning opportunity by attributing the failure to an external factor, such as luck."

"As a result, they enter a downward spiral: each failure makes them less motivated to try again, and soon they give up, frustrated at how unfair the world is.
It wasn’t really the world that was responsible; it was their own failure to take responsibility for their failure and learn from it."

"Make sure that whenever you fail, you always look for the cause of the failure in something that you did, and not in something that you couldn’t control."

"Even when it looks as if something was indeed outside of your control, it doesn’t mean that you didn’t make any mistakes that might have increased the chances of such an outcome.
Identifying those mistakes — even if they were only partially responsible for the failure — will help you in future attempts and prevent you from developing the unhelpful mindset that you don’t have direct influence over your life."

Hmm 🤔
I think these ones explain themselves.
People who say, "I wasn't lucky", and believe so often end up demotivated.

Most times, our actions may have contributed to something not going our way....a.k.a "we didn't get it".
This can apply to cases like a job interview or an audition.
Or a situation that illustrates the verse, "many are called, but few are chosen."

Instead of blaming misfortune, it's best to seek out lessons that the "failure" is trying to teach us.
I like to see it this way:
If I win, I celebrate
If I lose, I learn
Simple 😌

Okay, let me share my chat with Meta AI.
In contrast to my relatively short questions, her responses are long.
I bet you will learn something from them.
Here we go:

Me: Act like a life coach and answer my question:
I feel so torn between who I am now and who I'm meant to be
How do I attain to a new level while being present in an environment that somehow inhibits me?

Meta AI: My friend, I totally understand what you're going through.
This feeling of being torn between your current self and the person you aspire to become is a common phenomenon, especially during times of transition and growth.

Firstly, acknowledge that this discomfort is a sign of your desire for evolution and growth. It takes courage to recognize the misalignment between your current situation and your aspirations.

Now, let's explore some strategies to help you navigate this challenging yet exciting phase:

1. Self-Reflection and Awareness
Take time to understand what specifically is inhibiting you in your current environment.
Is it the people, the work, the culture, or something else? Once you identify the sources of frustration, you can begin to address them.

2. Set Boundaries and Prioritize Self-Care
Establish clear boundaries to protect your time, energy, and mental well-being.
Prioritize self-care activities that nourish your mind, body, and soul, such as exercise, meditation, or hobbies.

3. Create a Vision for Your Desired Future
Envision the person you aspire to become and the life you want to lead.
What are your values, goals, and aspirations? Write down your vision and make it as vivid and detailed as possible.

4. Take Small, Consistent Steps Towards Your Vision
Break down your long-term goals into smaller, manageable steps. Take consistent action towards your vision, even if it's just 10-15 minutes a day.
Celebrate your small wins, and use them as motivation to keep moving forward.

5. Seek Support and Community
Surround yourself with people who support and encourage your growth.
Seek out mentors, coaches, or like-minded individuals who share your passions and values.

6. Practice Mindfulness and Presence
While it's essential to have a clear vision for your future, it's equally important to stay present in the moment.
Mindfulness practices can help you cultivate a sense of awareness, acceptance, and compassion for your current situation.

7. Embrace the Transition Process
Transformation is rarely a linear or comfortable process.
It's essential to acknowledge that growth often requires you to navigate uncertainty, discomfort, and change.

Remember, my friend, you are not alone in this journey.
Many people have successfully navigated similar transitions and have come out stronger, wiser, and more fulfilled on the other side.

Keep in mind that it's okay to take your time, and it's essential to be patient and compassionate with yourself throughout this process. Celebrate your small wins, and don't be afraid to seek help when you need it. You got this!

Me: Will this involve me shutting out the outside world for a while?

Meta AI: My friend, it's not about shutting out the outside world entirely, but rather about setting healthy boundaries and prioritizing your inner growth.

Think of it as a temporary "inner retreat" – a chance to focus on your personal evolution, recharge your batteries, and gain clarity on your aspirations.

During this time, you may need to:

1. Limit social media and digital distractions: Take a break from the constant stream of information and comparisons.
2. Set boundaries with others: Communicate your needs and priorities to loved ones, colleagues, or friends.
3. Create space for self-reflection: Schedule time for journaling, meditation, or other introspective activities.

However, it's essential to maintain some connection with the outside world. You can:

1. Stay in touch with loved ones: Share your journey with trusted friends and family, and ask for their support.
2. Engage in activities that bring you joy: Continue doing things that make you happy and fulfilled.
3. Seek guidance and community: Connect with mentors, coaches, or like-minded individuals who can offer support and encouragement.

Remember, this is not about isolating yourself from the world, but about creating a temporary "container" for your growth.
By setting healthy boundaries and prioritizing your inner work, you'll emerge stronger, wiser, and more resilient.

Me: I understand that if things are hard, it's meant to help me grow.
How do I protect my mental health during hard times?

Meta AI: My friend, taking care of your mental health during challenging times is crucial.
Here are some strategies to help you navigate difficult periods while protecting your mental well-being:

1. Self-Compassion
Treat yourself with kindness, understanding, and patience. Acknowledge that it's okay to struggle and that you're doing the best you can.

2. Emotional Awareness
Recognize and accept your emotions, rather than suppressing or denying them.
Allow yourself to feel and process your emotions in a healthy way.

3. Boundary Setting
Establish clear boundaries with others to protect your time, energy, and emotional well-being.
Learn to say "no" when necessary and prioritize your own needs.

4. Self-Care
Engage in activities that nourish your mind, body, and soul, such as:
- Exercise or physical activity
- Meditation or mindfulness practices
- Creative pursuits (e.g., art, music, writing)
- Spending time in nature
- Connecting with loved ones or a therapist

5. Seek Support
Reach out to:
- Trusted friends or family members
- Mental health professionals (therapists or counselors)
- Support groups or online communities
- Helplines or crisis services (if needed)

6. Practice Mindfulness
Focus on the present moment, without judgment.
Mindfulness techniques can help you:
- Reduce stress and anxiety
- Improve emotional regulation
- Enhance self-awareness

7. Challenge Negative Thoughts
Notice when negative self-talk or catastrophic thinking patterns emerge. Gently challenge these thoughts by reframing them in a more balanced or realistic way.

8. Take Breaks and Practice Self-Forgiveness
Allow yourself time to rest and recharge. Remember that it's okay to not be okay, and that you're doing the best you can.

9. Celebrate Small Wins
Acknowledge and celebrate your achievements, no matter how small they may seem. This helps to build resilience and reinforce positive self-talk.

10. Seek Professional Help When Needed
If you're struggling with overwhelming emotions, suicidal thoughts, or severe mental health concerns, please seek immediate help from a mental health professional or crisis service.

Remember, taking care of your mental health is an ongoing process.
Be patient, kind, and compassionate with yourself as you navigate life's challenges.

That was the end of our chat.
Sometimes, It's good to ask the tough questions...and AI can help with answers...or even ideas that you need.
Besides, no one else is there to see your questions...no matter how embarrassing they might be.
So, start asking!

Thanks for reading, my friend 😊
This was definitely a long one, wasn't it?
I just wanted to share my little chat with Meta AI.
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(Time for my closing lines)
I'm Duon Ada
I'm documenting 2025
And I'll see you tomorrow
Ciao 💕