Last Sunday In November

It's day 334 of documenting 2025.

31 days to 2026!

Happy Sunday! 😊

This is definitely coming on as a late post.

But my Sunday was a good one.

I went for service and then came back to work on some assignments, which I didn't actually finish 😐

Well, I called my dad and then his friend who I usually call my aunty.

She tormented me.

(Well, not really...)

The thing is, I don't usually speak my native language, Igbo very well.

It's largely due to the fact that I was born and brought up in Lagos, a Yoruba speaking state.

She knows that, but now that I'm in my home state, she now makes it mandatory that I speak Igbo anytime I can her.

Are you kidding me?

I really forced it...and then she asked to talk to my roommate.

How embarrassing! 🙈

I get her point tho....

And I believe that with time, I'll be speaking my mother tongue fluently.

My roommate didn't mind talking to her and after a few minutes of communication, in Igbo...I got back the phone and after more discussions, ended the call.

And yeah...my brother came to my hostel and I was able to call my dad so they could speak.

 Apparently, he needed some textbooks and couldn't tell my dad...until I called.

Well, they talked it out and later my dad discussed with me on how we could raise the money for him.

By God's grace, it has been resolved.

Alright...let's look at today's highlights and then we end the usual way.

365 Days With Self-discipline

📌 On Self-Criticism

"Self-criticism is consistently associated with less motivation and worse self-control."

Quote by Kelly McGonigal

Berating yourself for your failures simply doesn’t work. 

Instead of motivating you to do better next time, it only brings you down, causing you to be even less likely to exert your willpower. 

In fact, being too harsh towards

yourself can turn one slip-up into a full-blown crisis or even into giving up on your goals because you become convinced that you’re too weak to change your life.

Instead of self-criticism, give yourself self-compassion. Whenever you fail to meet your standards, remind yourself that you were probably doing your best, but this time it simply didn’t work.

Human beings aren’t perfect, so don’t assume that you’ll have 100% adherence to a diet, a workout program, or any other resolution you have.

Then, instead of looking for reasons why you suck because you failed, look for lessons in your slip-up and vow to do better next time, being careful to not repeat the same mistakes. 

Being kind to yourself will ultimately motivate you more to try again than poisoning yourself with your critical voice ever could.

I learned this lesson on self-compassion about two years ago.

Before then, I would condemn and criticize myself so much, that I would just slip further and further into the black hole of regret.

After realizing that I needed to love myself more, I started to improve as I practiced compassion.

Slowly, I started to improve.

I became more aware of my weaknesses first, and then discovered my strengths.

I really thank God for the years spent at home. All of that ground work is serving me now where I am.

And I believe more is yet to come.

It's the last day of the month and I couldn't be more grateful 🥲

November taught me a lot of lessons and I have documented them in my subconscious.

Let me just say one of them:

Don't be afraid of having those difficult conversations 😌

That thing you don't have the courage to tell your friend, is definitely what she needs to hear.

If the relationship becomes non-existent because you spoke your mind, good.

You know why?

It means the person was never meant to be in your life....and you just saved yourself a whole lot of future reget.

As simple as that.

I think that would be all for today's documentation.

Thanks for reading 🎀

Tomorrow is December!

And it's officially three weeks before we vacate for the Christmas break.

It seems people are counting the days now...

See you in the next post 💜