"Why Do I Want What I Want?"

It's day 130 of documenting 2025.

Why do I want what I want?

That's what I asked myself.

Until yesterday, I had not really thought about why I wanted to accomplish my goals.

Well, I figured it all out and got it down on paper.

Even made a soft copy for future reference...

I think it's all coming together.

Slowly.

Why I want to focus and do better than I did last time.

Piece by piece...you will become a masterpiece.

Just take your time 😌

In other news...

I finally saw my JAMB result yesterday...when it was released.

I scored 287 out of 400.

Pretty good if you ask me...

Based on my efforts, I'll say it was a deserving score.

A friend asked what I wanted to study...

I told him Psychology.

He replied, "With that score?"

"You can go for something better".

I told him it was my choice.

A very rare one in my case.

My neighbor said so.

Right now, it's admission requirements and processes.

Till the time I actually get admitted, I plan to work and save up some money.

By work, I mean offering my writing services...

As well as promoting and selling my digital products.

You can help out by getting one of them from my store.

No pressure tho...

If you don't want any, you don't have to buy any.

I'm not a fan of shoving information down people's throats.

I believe on helping people with what I know through my works.

Alright, let's touch on highlights before I say a thing or two about how yesterday went.

It's from the usual read, written by Martin Meadows.

None other than...

365 Days With Self-discipline

📌 On Working On Laziness

If you are smart, but not lazy, work on laziness. 

To do everything, simply because you can, lowers effectiveness. Concentrate on the really important things that get amazing results. 

Do only the few things with greatest benefit.

Quote by Richard Koch

Hmm 🤔

I think this guy is the author of The 80/20 Principle.

Am I right, my friend?

"As contradictory as it sounds, some self-disciplined people need to work on laziness to get to the next level of personal growth. 

Just like it takes discipline to work on the hard things, it also takes discipline to resist the temptation to work on unnecessary things."

"Restlessness can be a good thing to inspire a person to take action, but if it leads to mindless work for the sake of work, you’re wasting your potential and resources you could have spent on another area of life where increased effort would have led to noticeable improvements."

"Periodically assess tasks you perform most frequently and ask yourself if you’re not only exerting willpower to keep working, but also showing restraint when it comes to performing tasks that add little or nothing to your life. 

Crossing off unnecessary tasks from your to-do list might feel good, but it’s just another form of instant gratification that ultimately compromises your long-term objectives."

Yo! 😲

Unnecessary tasks are also a form of instant gratification!

I don't know that until yesterday.

I realize that I've been filling my plate with a lot of unnecessary things....before my phone got reset to factory settings.

Now, I have more time to think and read...and I occasionally try to not stay so long on social media.

Facebook and WhatsApp are incredibly gratifying.

I'm learning to limit the amount of time I spend on them.

So, there's time for the most important thing....learning.

Speaking of learning, I finished the next chapter of another book by Martin Meadows called "The Ultimate Focus Strategy".

I was done with the last section of the chapter last night...after some time.

I didn't read the whole chapter...which was quite long.

I took it, section by section.

Till the final one.

I'm going to share the recap now...and you determine if the chapter is long or not.

STEP 1 — START: QUICK RECAP

1. The first step starts with the most important characteristic of the Ultimate Focus Strategy: you need to have as few goals as possible, so you can develop

powerful focus instead of spreading yourself thin. 

Sacrificing less-important goals will give you more power to work on the most crucial objectives.

2. When choosing a goal for the Ultimate Focus Strategy, make sure it’s something that can transform your life. 

If you absolutely need it in your life, you won’t be able to give up.

3. Unsure about which goals you should pursue? Flip a coin. 

You’ll know which goal is closer to your heart because you’ll root for it. 

A second technique is to think about your most important values and think whether your goal is related to them. 

Lastly, if you exhibit unusual patience for a given goal, it’s probably something that you absolutely need to achieve in your life.

4. It’s good to be ambitious, but if you have absolutely no idea about how to accomplish a given goal, start small and adjust your goals when you acquire real-world knowledge. 

If you already have some resources at your disposal (such as some experience) that give you more credibility, feel free to set bigger goals.

5. There are three types of motivation: 

extrinsic (relying on external rewards/punishments); intrinsic (relying on internal rewards); and prosocial (relying on thinking beyond yourself). 

Intrinsic motivation is a must. 

Prosocial motivation can further boost your resolve. 

Extrinsic motivation is the weakest of the three types and isn’t really necessary to accomplish your goal, although it’s still good to have all three kinds of motivators working for you.

6. Think carefully about when to start. 

Sometimes the negative circumstances can pose too big of a challenge for a newbie and it’s better to wait. 

For example, don’t invest your money in the stock market if it’s been too volatile recently. 

In addition to that, sleep on your idea of setting a given goal to see how you feel about it when you’re not that excited. 

Lastly, make sure that you’re aware of the dark side of working and reaching your goal and ask yourself if you’re okay with it.

7. Before you get started with your goal, consider whether accomplishing another objective would be better to help you reach your ultimate goal. 

You can often benefit from setting a different, easier starting point. 

To start working on your goal, figure out the simplest, most essential action to take. 

Last but not least, get support that will help you to avoid procrastination and make excuses.

8. If you have a tendency to dream on paper, but you never take action to make your dreams a reality, embrace the tiny steps and tiny wins approach.

Instead of obsessing about the final outcome and all of the steps that are needed to reach it, tune out everything around you but the tiniest action steps you can take now that will get you closer to the nearest tiny wins. 

Focus on building momentum to get yourself out of inaction.

9. If you’re struggling to balance several goals at once, prioritize them, so you always know which goals you can sacrifice and which ones are non-negotiable. 

In addition to that, try to combine working on several goals simultaneously, if possible.

10. You’ll handle a fear of failure if you stop avoiding failure. 

Deliberately put yourself in situations when you’re likely to fail, so you can get used to the feeling and realize it’s not a big deal.

11. If you have a fear of success, realize that change will happen gradually.

You’ll be able to notice changes and get used to them as they happen.

That's the recap, my friend 🎀

Now, tell me...

Is it a long chapter? Yep!

But I took it one section at a time.

Lesson: 

Whatever giant task or project you have, break it down into ant bits of action 🐜

Then take them one by one.

(Get it?...giant; ant..)

How yesterday went?

It went well...no dark feelings.

Just writing, reading and a whole playlist of Lindsey Stirling's tracks.

Gosh! I love the violin music 🎻

I tried something new as well.

I told my brother we would do a reading sprint.

(Don't know if that's the word...)

I told him I would set the timer for 25 minutes and we would both read something and take notes down ✍️

After the time was up, we would take a 5-minute break...and he could play however he liked.

He was down for it!

Being 9 years old, my brother thought of it as I cool exercise.

I was just trying out the good ol' Pomodoro technique.

I read from an ebook on my Google Drive and took down notes.

He read a textbook and wrote down words he didn't understand.

(Or so I think 🤔)

One thing I noticed about the exercise...

I was focused on what I was reading.

No wandering thoughts....or the need to move from that spot.

Another win on my part!

Well, I just did it once...but I'll definitely do it again.

And this is a good way to end today's post.

Thanks for reading, my friend ☺️

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