Seminar, Power, Night Call

It's day 124 of documenting 2025.

Happy Sunday 😊 

It's the weekend and at the same time, the start of a new week.

Cheers to that! 🍷

Lemme just talk about yesterday.

Three things happened....

One, the power was restored.

Hallelujah! 🙌🏼

Two, I went for a seminar organized by the tutorial center I go to (or used to go to...).

Several educated men talked about the university, admission, and the fact that education, no matter what anyone says...is vital.

Last but not the least, I called my aunt.

Now, this is where the gist is.

It started out of pure curiosity...

I called my aunt to know if my cousin has been admitted into the university.

She said yes, a private school.

Noted 📌 

Then she directed her attention to me and asked what school I picked.

I told her.

She asked for the course as well.

When I told her it's Psychology, she went ballistic.

I could sense it in her voice that if she was in front of me, she would give me a slap.

Not out of anger tho...

Out of a need to shake me up.

Here's what happened:

She went on and on about how Psychology is not a good course,

Because it's not one of the top courses to study in Nigeria.

Then she used my cousin as a case study.

Until today, I didn't know she's studying nursing.

Her O' level result was good, as well as her JAMB result (according to my aunt, her mother).

It is assumed that after her 4 year study...she would go to nursing school and start working.

My aunt also pointed out that the course isn't competitive...and after the 4 year study, what next?

Who would hire a graduate of Psychology?

For what?

Who am I "psyching"?

I simply listened.

She said I wasn't counseled well.

She brought up the case of her daughter again....how my uncle was asked to pay some "extra" fees.

They then decided to place her in a private university.

And she talked about my other cousin...who's in the same school I want to apply to.

Basically, two of my cousins,who are younger than me...are already in school.

She ended by saying that I should change the course after my JAMB result comes out...

And the usual "God will help you...God will provide".

I could hear the disappointment in her voice.

She finally asked about my brother, who wrote JAMB as well....and said a few comments about how he's supposed to be learning a trade, or something like that.

She ended the call after saying all she felt she had to say.

The call lasted for about 8 minutes...which really reduced my call credit.

But I learned a few things from the call.

First, if it was a different me.....maybe 18-year old Duon, I would go into "comparison mode".

But I know better than to compare my fate with those of my younger cousins in school.

One of the speakers said something at the seminar yesterday.

He said, "it's better to be slow and sure, than to be fast and fall".

Patience.

He also said, "if God wants to come best, he comes late".

I was reminded of that concept.

Second thing I learned from the call is, my choice is an unusual one.

My aunt was like, "no one knows about the course...it's not even one of the top courses".

Good and fine.

I never wanted to fit in, anyway.

Whenever I tell people I want to study Psychology, they always ask questions.

What's your subject combination?

Aren't you a science student?

Where do psychologists work?

What does it involve?

Why do you want to study it?

Actually, the last question is the least asked question.

It seems I'm going for something not really known.

Well, I'm going to answer that question here.

I picked Psychology because I'm fascinated with human behavior.

How they think, why they act....and I'm my own case study.

When I say I will do something, why didn't I do it? 

Why do I decide to keep going in a hopeless situation?

Besides, it's cool when someone acts in a certain way and I'm able to deduce exactly why.

I also picked it as a basis for my knowledge of sales and marketing.

I really want to understand the human mind in a way that I can use words to direct their desire to get a particular service or product.

Copywriting ✍🏼 

The knowledge of human psychology will help me understand how to influence certain people to change their unhealthy perspectives.....kinda like therapy.

It's something I'm eager to learn, not something picked by my parents because they think it's "best" for me.

Plus, a degree in Psychology is a nice-to-have.

I'm not trying to use it to get work, it's just a stepping stone to where I'm going.

Aunty, I'm thankful for your concern but you don't have to worry...I know what I'm doing.

Well....that was good.

Getting those thoughts out of my head...

Things may be all scattered in my life right now...but I'll move forward nevertheless.

Speaking of moving forward, I found an ebook project of mine in Google Docs.

I saved it when I had the idea then 💡 

Now I'm going to finish it.

After I finish it, I'll revamp my Selar store and list it there.

Then share it with you ☺️.

But for now, it's a work in progress...or WIP as writers call it.

Now, let's move to highlights.

Quotes from the usual read...

And I may or may not give my thoughts on each quotes.

It is mainly "as the spirit leads" 😌

Alright, let's dive in

365 Days With Self-discipline 

📌 On Daily Gratitude 

"The more you regularly experience gratitude, the more self-control you

have in various areas of your life.

Quote by David DeSteno.

"Research suggests that daily gratitude boosts self-control. Researcher David DeSteno says that expressing gratitude for little everyday things, such as the

kindness of a stranger, functions like a vaccine against impulsiveness. 

It enhances self-control and makes you more oriented toward the future."

"In addition to boosting your self-control, expressing thankfulness daily makes you a more positive person, and that in itself is a huge benefit that can affect your ability to stick to your goals when the going gets tough."

"Each morning or evening express gratitude for five small things."

"Such simple things are what makes life great. 

Why not regularly express your gratitude for them and become happier, develop more mental resistance, reduce impulsiveness and gain more self-control?"

To chip in, there are some methods that can work when trying to express gratitude.

I'm just suggesting and this is for people who don't usually express gratitude.

First is, saying "thank you, Lord" whenever you can...works for me.

Second is, writing what you're thankful for with a pen and paper.

And lastly, saying "thank you" to people who helped or help you in one way or another.

It costs nothing to be grateful 🥲.

This is where I end today's post.

I hope you're doing well where you are....and you're chasing your dreams.

Because in the end, it's not what you do that matters, it's who you become.

Thanks for reading, my friend 🎀 

If you have some more time to read more posts like this, visit Documenting 2025.

There's a hundred of em'.

I'll see you there 😉 

By the way, I'm Duon Ada 

I'm documenting 2025.

And I'll see you tomorrow 

Ciao 💕